Is a New “You” Ready To Emerge?
Change. Shift. Pivot.
If you’re over 40, like me, you’ve likely experienced the rollercoaster of life in more ways than one. Career shifts, financial transitions, and the inevitable ups and downs of relationships—all of these experiences.
If it did not knock you down, then I would hope it made you stronger.
For many out there, it’s not the age factor that got us thinking about possible life changes. During the 2020 Pandemic, millions of us were forced into a new reality:
Working from home & not having to commute to work daily, then…being forced to return to work.
Being laid off during the Pandemic and some being laid off more than once, like myself (laid off 3x)
Massive hiring in 2021, then massive layoffs that started in 2022, because corporate companies wanted to satisfy the bottom line of the value of stock owned by its shareholders
Hundreds of thousands of people all looking for jobs in the same industries, increasing competition
Being exposed to low-ball job offers that don’t even offer a living wage in most major cities.
Massive immigration changes led to a lack of funds in other government sectors to help Americans in need
Massive theft and the closing of retail locations
The insanity of inflation of rent, food, and goods
Destruction of towns and cities with hurricanes and tornados
The amount of negative media involving the political parties of the left and right.
I know…it’s a lot, huh?
There are all sorts of shifts that can force us into change but for some of you still sitting here with your cushy job because you never got laid off - here's the million-dollar question:
Is there a new version of you that’s ready to emerge?
Many of us find ourselves at a crossroads during this stage in life. Perhaps you’re feeling like you’ve outgrown certain aspects of your life—your career, friendships, or even your daily habits.
Maybe you’re yearning for something more but don’t know what that “more” looks like just yet.
Here’s the truth:
change isn’t just inevitable, it’s necessary.
And if you’re feeling that pull to pivot, it’s because a new version of you is ready to step forward and this is not the time to ignore that gut feeling.
ot the time to ignore that gut feeling.
Why Now?
The mid-40s and beyond are often seen as the start of a settling-down phase, but I challenge you to see it differently.
This isn’t the time to settle, but rather to expand.
Life is no longer about ticking off boxes—getting the job, finding the partner, buying the house—it’s about creating a life that truly aligns with who you are today.
As a single mom for the past seven years, I’ve come to face a harsh reality: marriage has become more elusive than ever.
With both men and women stepping off the dating scene, the prospect of a wedding—and often even homeownership—feels more out of reach for many of us.
This is why I started writing a book called “A Husband Is a Luxury: Redefining Happiness, Wealth, and Independence for the Single Gal” so I can help women understand that they may not achieve the fairytale life that they had hoped but how to still live an amazing life as a Single Woman.
(you can follow my book writing journey on the book’s instagram or my main youtube channel)
When we’ve lived a little, and experienced a lot, we gain clarity on what we don’t want. That clarity becomes a gift because it pushes us toward what we do want.
This thought process is a time for refinement, not complacency.
It’s your chance to define and plan for success on your terms, to decide what you want more of in your life and what no longer serves you.
Change: The Catalyst for Growth
Change can be terrifying, but it’s also the most powerful catalyst for growth.
Often, we hold onto outdated versions of ourselves because they’re comfortable, or worse, we hold onto future versions of ourselves because we like to float in a fantasy.
The career that pays the bills, the routines that keep us busy, the habits that help us avoid looking at what we want—these are safety nets.
But if you’re feeling the itch to pivot? That’s your inner wisdom telling you that it’s time for something new.
Remember, growth isn’t always linear. Sometimes it looks like a sudden shift, an unexpected detour, or even a small pivot that changes everything.
Shifts can be experienced in a positive manner such as a new job making you enough money to buy a house or sometimes change will come with tragedy.
It’s not about overhauling your life overnight; it’s about listening to that inner voice that says “There’s more for you.”
Embracing the Pivot
So, how do you embrace this shift?
Embracing a pivot in your life starts with accepting that change is a natural part of growth, so keep your eyes, heart, and intuition open to change happening in any way shape, or form.
Be aware of your surroundings and pay attention to signs that God, or the Universe, is sending in your life.
Resisting change only holds you back from your true potential.
When you know in your bones that you are ready for a change or shift in your life but that the journey could be a little rocky, you are truly ready to receive the blessings of your better future life.
Focus on what feels aligned with your values and passions, allowing that to guide your next steps with confidence.
Remember, a pivot doesn’t mean starting over—it’s about making intentional shifts that bring you closer to the life you truly desire.
If you reach a point where things are getting difficult for you, take a break. Sometimes taking even just one day off of “constantly working on things”, can give you enough space to reflect and pivot into a better or faster route of arrival.
So give yourself some grace. Change is hard. If it was that easy we would all be living our most amazing lives.
Self-Reflection and Clarity
First, let’s get clear on what’s no longer working in your life.
This is the most crucial step that most folks never even arrive at, so pat yourself on the back for simply STARTING.
Reflecting on your own life forces you to accept responsibility for how things have been, or have not, been working in your life…and most people do not want to accept responsibility for themselves, let along others.
Take time for self-reflection to assess your current situation by asking yourself:
What’s no longer working in my life altogether?
What’s not working “right now”
What areas of my life feel out of alignment?
What habits or patterns no longer serve me?
What would a fulfilled version of myself look like?
Is it your career?
Your energy level?
Your health routines?
The way you show up in your relationships?
Is there a big goal you still desire to accomplish?
Once you identify where the disconnect is, you can begin to pivot.
A pivot doesn’t mean abandoning everything. It’s about making intentional, aligned adjustments that bring you closer to the person you’re becoming.
This could mean taking a course to upgrade your skills, setting new boundaries in friendships/relationships, or even dedicating time to self-care in ways you’ve never prioritized before.
Remember, everyone else around you will still be living their lives regardless of what you do, so ideally you can’t disappoint anyone.
Of course, be mindful of changes in your life that may directly affect everyone such as quitting your job when you are the breadwinner of your family but your parter is a stay-at-home parent.
Set Small, Achievable Goals
Big changes can feel overwhelming, so start small. Break your vision into manageable steps by setting SMART goals—Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound.
For example, instead of saying, "I want to get healthier," you might start with, "I will walk for 30 minutes three times a week for the next month." Small wins build momentum and confidence.
*create a document for braindump of all goals + one for your first big goal:
1 year from now
6 months from now
1 month from now
1 week from now
What can I do today to get started?
Create a Supportive Environment
Surround yourself with people and resources that uplift you and encourage growth. This could mean:
Seeking out a mentor or coach on YouTube who can guide you
Joining a group of like-minded individuals working toward similar goals by joining a Facebook Group or cohort.
Removing distractions or toxic influences that hinder progress such as reducing going out and staying up late or overconsuming alcohol.
Your environment has a powerful impact on your mindset and success, so curate it carefully to support the changes you're making.
Is a New “You” Ready to Emerge?
If you’ve made it this far, The answer is simple: yes.
The new version of you is always ready to emerge when you’re willing to let go of the old.
The next phase of your life can be more fulfilling, more aligned, and more authentically “you” —but it requires the courage to pivot when life calls for it.
So, I ask you, are you ready to embrace the change?
Your next-level life is waiting.
Download the eBook/workbook to start your new life or a new season.
Workbook
Self-Reflection and Clarity
What areas of my life feel out of alignment?
Is it your career?
Your energy level?
Your health routines?
The way you show up in your relationships?
Is there a big goal you still desire to accomplish?
(reference the wheel of life)
What habits or patterns no longer serve me?
What would a fulfilled version of myself look like?
Set Small, Achievable Goals
Create goal chart
Habit Tracker
Create a Supportive Environment
List a document of all things needed to get yourself motivated, into the zone and ready to GO.
Light candle for productivity
Deep Work Music playlist or Motivational YouTube Playlist
Coffee or tea
Water bottle
10-Minute Monday Meditation
